Monday, 23 March 2020

We are all in this together

Life will never be the same again. It came out of nowhere. Priorities have changed, things that used to be important are just not anymore. Maslow's hierarchy of needs comes into play here because we all have been forced to go back to the bottom of the pyramid where we need food and water and safety/predictability. It doesn't seem that important any more if I feel belonging or feel successful.

As a Therapist, it feels a bit as through the rug was pulled out from under me, because a world event like this brings us all to our knees, nobody is immune to the health risks or the anxiety. I'm being forced to look at life from a new angle and to be more vulnerable, not only with my clients, but with my children. 

I used to be able to say that everything is going to be okay and believe it myself, I did try to shelter my kids as much as I could from the harsh realities of life, but I can't do that any longer. My goal for as long as I can remember is to feel better and to help others feel better too. That turned into healing from trauma. Now we must find a way to thrive during trauma. 

We are looking at months at home. That doesn't scare me, I'm blessed to live with my kids. What scares me most is the possibility of running out of food/water and having the clinic/hospital be quite different than what we are used to depending on. Knowing that people in my circle may die is very sad. I am not afraid of death when it comes to me, but I know how much it hurts to lose someone you love. 

How does one process something of this magnitude? I keep going through the stages of grief. Shock/denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. I see my kids going through them too, and everyone really. We've been thrown into a new way of life. 

I feel gratitude and my heart goes out to the health care workers and their families. There are so many other people too, who find themselves stuck somewhere with people who are expressing toxic and dangerous behavior. People who are not with those they love and don't have access to communicate with them. I wish I could help them all. 

It is a helpless feeling. How can I go from victim mode into survivor, or thriving? What does it mean to thrive? It means something different than it used to. We are all being forced to go inside literally and figuratively. How to be aware of our thoughts and redirect them, to appreciate the good we do have, to accept our new reality while doing what we can do to take care of us and those we love. 

We are all in this together. What a journey. 
For a free 1 hour Guided Meditation that I created last week to help ease the anxiety we are all facing, click here: https://audioboom.com/posts/7532482-easing-anxiety-guided-meditation

Chantelle Neufeld
Online Hypnotherapist

Monday, 13 January 2020

What are the Benefits to Guided Meditation?

I used to wonder why I could be completely miserable when I went to bed, and then wake up the next morning feeling fine. What I didn't know is that while we're sleeping, the memories of the day are being processed and transferred from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind, and that while we dream we are able to actually process and release negative emotion.

In the guided meditation classes that I've been leading, some people get so relaxed that they have fallen asleep and have felt like they missed something, but in fact, the subconscious mind is always listening and I know that those who drift in and out of sleep during the class are getting the greater benefit of the guided meditation. Guided meditation feels like a Spa for the Mind.

There are different types of brainwaves that we move in and out of every day. Beta is our alert state where we use our conscious mind the most. Alpha is when we're relaxed enough to meditate but are still awake. Theta is the state people access when they choose to follow the directions of a guided meditation or when they dream during the night, and Delta is experienced in a deep, dreamless sleep.

During a guided meditation, theta brain waves allow us to access our intuition, emotional connection, creativity, and deep mental and physical relaxation which reduce stress and anxiety levels. Meditation balances your left and right brain hemispheres resulting in better mental health.

Thomas Edison once said: "Never go to sleep without a request to your subconscious." If you set an intention before a guided meditation or before you go to bed, something that's bothering you, a problem to work through, or something to let go of, you'll wake up with answers, feeling rested and feeling really good because meditation naturally boosts endorphins and serotonin, and lowers the stress hormone cortisol.

A guided meditation is like telling your mind what to dream. If you rate your problem before meditation from 1-10 of how much it bothers you, and then rate it after, the number will go down. If you feel like you have a never ending list of things to do before meditation, after it feels like there is really not that much to do, or that only a few things are important to focus on. There is a feeling of lightness emotionally, mentally and physically.

For the best guided meditation, go to a Hypnotherapist because they are trained in language patterns on how to talk to the brain. There are certain words and phrases that the subconscious mind listens to. Your subconscious mind is working non-stop to protect you and won't let you accept anything that goes against your beliefs.

For deep emotional healing, I've experienced lasting results with a 1:1 session with a Hypnotherapist who is trained in how to access the subconscious mind. Hypnotherapy has the ability to neutralize emotion from a traumatic memory, forming new pathways in the mind, using a comfortable, dissociative process.

I've helped hundreds of people using Hypnotherapy during an online video call and I'd love to talk with you about how to feel peace of mind after trauma and take away the hurts from the past. Free consultation is available. My website is www.chantellen.com